What exactly are you in love with? Are you in love with his expensive lifestyle? Are you in love with the money he showers on you? Are you in love with her bank account? Are you in love with her position at work? Are you in love with her figure, lips, and eyes? Are you in love with her womb? Are you sure it is not about how many male children she can give you without the stress of IVF? What is the meaning and colour of love to you?
Before you go into any marriage, please ask and find answers to these questions. When I say find answers, I am not talking about you asking him or her to clarify things for you. You don’t expect him or her to give a negative answer when you come up with these questions. Watch that person closely and then reach your own conclusion.
I am talking about you washing your eyes with very clean and clear water and then watch as events gradually unfold. We often get carried away with all these “I love you baby” stuff that we neglect the most important things. When young people come to me or write telling me how much in love they are with their partner, I only get to discover at the end of the day that they don’t even know what love is. Friends, you don’t have to rush into that union. Please be very patient and take it one step at a time. I know that you often get frustrated by the society as you are made to feel less of a woman because you have no husband. I know your mother is so much in a haste to carry her grandchild. For you to be happy in that marriage, please take it easy.
There are gigolos everywhere now and ladies, please shine your eyes. They are no longer going for a woman they can help build up; they want those they can share bills with. People, no real man gets married to a woman with the mindset of sharing bills with her. I know that a real woman should fight to contribute and help her husband out when necessary, but it is not the duty of a woman. The lazy guy wants a woman who will buy him the latest Range Rover with some lovely wears for him to paint the town red with his girls while she is at work. I pity girls who fall for every beautiful thing out there. What you don’t know is that your boyfriend who runs a small eatery by the roadside is better and more of a man than the cute gigolo wearing designers from head to toe. You would be miserable if you end up falling for him.
And you, working class lady, please be very careful. Don’t let one useless boy mess up your life simply because you want to be in control or because the society is indirectly pushing you to become desperate. I don’t know about you but I dislike a man the very moment I see him saying ‘yes’ to every of my word and action. That simply tells me he is not a man and I cannot trust him for leadership. The gigolo you married will take a walk the very minute your job is gone. A lady I know has been deceived in the name of love. Even before the crook got married to her, he went behind to check out her worth and she is still living in ignorance. If you are already in that situation, think again.
Any marriage that is built on deception is no marriage and cannot be honoured by God. I don’t care about all the “what God has joined together”, the fact remains that God is not a party to that deal. Let us stop misusing and abusing the name of God. He knows that he has used the Jacob spirit in him to lure you into marrying him. He knows that his intention is to get you to make him your next of kin before he finally plans your death or possibly defraud you. God knows that there is nothing like marriage between you two.
God used me to deliver a lady recently. She was being deceived by one gigolo who was even the one putting pressure on her for marriage. My friend talked about him with so much fondness until the very day I met the guy. I had to speak some sense into my friend’s head. I told her how foolish she had been. Later she did what I asked her to do only for her to call me to say “thank you”. The smart fool was busy using her money for a younger girl and even telling the girl not to worry as all he wanted was use the matured lady and then come back to her. Ladies, guys now play the game better.
The funniest thing is that these players are the ones who use the eight letter word better and more often. They will so blind your eyes that you become a complete fool even when you think you are wise. My mother will always call them, “ndi odu chi egbu” (they assist the gods to kill you). They can turn your head upside down with their sweet words and yet they are out to kill and destroy you.
I always sit up and become more careful whenever I see folks with very sweet tongue. They will always sweep you off your feet and then strike when you least expect it. I must also warn you my dear single mom. Consider your child/children before you go into that relationship. I don’t think it is a wise decision for you to settle for a “never married man” when you are divorced or widowed. It is always better going for a man with the experience and maturity. What are you even going to be discussing with that young guy? Is life all about some hot sex? Think again with your head and heart.
For you to enjoy your marriage, there must be some kind of balance and harmony in values, spiritual principles, intellectual capacity, and psychology. You can go ahead telling yourself that love is blind; I agree, love is blind but marriage will open your eyes.
It is now more about who plays the game better; be wise. I know there are still godly men and women out there with their conscience intact, but just a handful.
Source: Amara Blessing
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