Now another view of the role of man as the head of his own home. This is about discipline. A man who cannot bring sanity and some measure of discipline into his home is a failure. I have seen homes where the woman takes final decision on issues; this is absolutely wrong. Like my pastor said yesterday, you sleep till 12 noon and that makes you not to know the whereabout of your wife and children. When you wake up at noon, they are off to work and school and by the time they are getting home in the evening, you are preparing for a night out with the boys. My brothers and fathers, this is wrong.
Everybody does what he or she likes in your own household and you call that freedom? Remember the story of Eli and his children. Eli behaved like the fathers of today who believe their children are free to do whatever they like in the name of civilization. I want you to know that The Lord will someday require an account of your stewardship from you. You are just a steward and caretaker to those children and the owner shall demand reports someday.
I don’t care if that person is your blood brother or your sister/brother-in-law and because you don’t want to offend your wife and in-laws, you allow him/her to do whatever he/she likes. My dear brother, you are gradually losing your place in the home as the head.
But another thing: how do you expect your wife to obey you and dress to please you when you don’t even know how much her dresses go for and where they are sold? When was the last time you gave her money for her hair? When was the last time you took her to a good spa for some pampering? Do the right thing if you want to be the head.
I remember my dad telling my mum to stay away from the kitchen sometimes and I have repeatedly said it that the good Edikaikong soup I prepare today was taught me by my darling father. We dare not speak when my father speaks but that has not made him see himself as Lord over all. We respect him and he in turn showers us with love. This is what it means to be the head of your home.
This said, I pity some of you men who are married to Jezebels. You got yourself into it because you didn’t look well before leaping. May God see you through because that kind of a woman will not rest until you go down the grave. Some of them are after your properties and insurance and nothing more. You need wisdom to go on with her because my Bible tells me that it’s better to dwell on a roof top than in a mansion with a nagging and contentious woman. I know that such a woman will never see anything good in whatever you do.
This post does not in any way, give you the license to become Idi Amin in your home. You must jointly take decisions with your wife and discuss it with children for the smooth running of that institution called “home”.
Finally, constantly reminding your wife and children that you are the head of the home, you are absolutely not the head. You don’t speak it; you live and earn it. In the words of Baroness Thatcher, “Being powerful is like being a lady; If you have to tell people you are, you aren’t”.
Source: Amara Blessing
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