Mid-Week Message: The Powerful Woman

When a woman has mastered the art of controlling her husband through submission, they say she has turned him to vegetable. Hear this woman: If you have not, through submission, taken over your husband’s heart to the point that he can no longer take decisions without your input, you still have a long way to go.

The fact remains that you won’t get there through “Iwa anya ndi Oyibo”, by going with this satan’s ploy called feminism, or by quoting Bible upside down; you can only get there through submission and the understanding that there is power on our knees. I have looked at the lives of great African (especially West African) women who were successful both in the market place and in their home and one thing is common: they all continued in submission. Mrs. Chidinma Ofoeze of blessed memory was the wife of Biltop International.

She was very pretty, well read with queens accent, successful in the market place. But she never stopped giving her husband his rightful place. Sure he misses her till today. My late friend, Ngozika Anozie (she gave me my business name) was a big time chattered account and wife of Sail Engineering. She was a mother and wife to the core and it’s years after her death, Nnamdi can’t replace her.

You are talking about your husband helping out with house chores; my father did and he still does. But my mother never forced him to, he did it because he loves her and because my mother respects him.
How did you make that statement telling him to help out? Did you bruise his ego in the process? Did you make it look like he must? You are now more western than the westerners; I know. I also know that even there in the western world, there are still men and women who understand marriage.

Woman, there is often the right time and way to talk to him and get him to do whatever you want him to do.
Also note that we have our own orientation. If you are married to a westerner, go on that way. But if you are married to a Nigerian or a man from West Africa who was raised here and who grew up seeing the way his mother treated his father, better ignore your friends who are misleading you and telling you how they deal with their own husband. Tell yourself the truth: there will always be conflict of interest the very day you try to turn him to your house help.

If you want to become his queen, treat him like your king. You can choose to go on with those deceitful words of feminist that would eventually lead you to untimely death and desertion. Feminists in the long run lose their children and husband. You dont lose anything by being a woman; you gain so much. You have tried the style of “imakwa ndi anyi bu”(do you know who I am), I want you to now try it this way and see what happens. Consult me for more tips on the right time to talk to him and the way to go about it. If it doesn’t work, come back to me (strictly for women’s ears).

The power of a real woman is in submission. Don’t be deceived. Ekwusikwaam. Imara asu, isuo n’ala; imaghi asu, isuo n’ikwe.




Source: Amara Blessing Nwosu
(Ryan Smith Photography)