Mid-Week Message: Sexy Vs. Beautiful

The word, ‘sexy’ could mean something positive to you. But to me, its something degrading. I want to remain old-fashioned in most aspects of life. Ladies, I don’t think we should always buy into every word we hear. The fact that some public figures want to be addressed that way doesn’t make it right for you. Yes, Meagan Good tagged herself “Sexy Christian” after she wore a revealing dress to the last BET Awards. Don’t be deceived. When all they do is call you ‘sexy’, please don’t enjoy it; it may not mean you are a beautiful woman.

Lets now look at the difference between a beautiful woman and a sexy woman

A Sexy Woman
A man sees a sexy woman and his first thought is he wants to have sex with her. This might be his first and only thought, almost an obsession. His entire interest in her is based on how quickly he can take her to bed and when he finally does, his so called interest in her will dissipate quickly. In other words, his entire motivation for pursuing this woman was predicated on her looks and nothing more. Having satisfied his urge to possess her, he has no more substantial use for her in his life.

He might keep her around and continue to deal with her because she is sexy and the benefits gained both internally and externally by having a sexy woman on his arm or in his bed. Still, this “relationship” is sustained by his superficiality. She was initially something to conquer and now she is something to show off. Nothing more and nothing less. After this phase wears off, she will be discarded.

A woman who is sexy, or hot only has an effect on a man below his belt. The attraction is purely superficial and such is the quality of the person’s feelings towards her. A hot and sexy woman is generally regarded to as such by all those who gaze upon her. A sexy woman is just a mere sex object for men; they don’t see more than the physical when they look at her. According to Dave Chapelle, you are not a whore, but you are wearing a whore’s uniform. For that woman (or girl as they don’t want to be addressed as a woman), being sexy is both an asset and a weakness in attracting men.

A beautiful woman
The primary difference between a beautiful woman and a sexy woman is men’s motivation for their pursuit of her from the very beginning.
When a man encounters a woman he finds beautiful, instead of his mind turning to how quickly he wants to have sex with her, his thoughts are of being with her. It’s always “I would love to keep her forever” vs. “I would like to have sex with her.” I believe a man views a beautiful woman in terms of a girlfriend, wife, companion and mother of his unborn kids, rather than merely an object.
A beautiful woman is that woman who loves God. She is focused and full of positive energy.

She has respect for culture and knows how not to let go of her values for peer pressure. She knows how to carry herself with every feminine glory and grace. A beautiful woman will never expose the part of her body that should be properly covered. A beautiful woman has it all including being sexy but men don’t see her as a good ground for escapades; she is for keeps.
A woman who is perceived as beautiful has a much more profound, and pronounced affect on a man. He desires much more than this woman’s body, or recognizes that she is worth a lot more than just a romp in the sack. The attraction towards her is deeper within. As such, a woman doesn’t have to be above average in looks in order to be beautiful. It is as they say, “In the eye of the beholder”.

Hot and sexy women are everywhere. Beautiful women are far more rare, more precious, and not to be taken for granted. Bear in mind that it is quite possible for a woman who is exceptionally hot to also be exquisitely beautiful.
And all women can be sexy if they try hard enough. Mind you; you can be properly covered and sexy.
Beauty is much more than physical appearance. We all must have come into contact with physically attractive woman who are creepy, rude, degrading, and abusive. Most men run away quickly or better still, keep her a little longer and parade her for all eyes to see.

Do you wonder why some men get frustrated after spending few months with that sexy woman? He took her because she is sexy and not because she is beautiful. Developing your inner being is more important than going out of your way to look sexy.
Women can do some things if they want to be seen as a potential wife instead of a potential conquest. Since men are visual creatures, their behaviour towards you is usually influenced by your outfit, the places you visit, the way you walk, talk and carry yourself. Purposefully or accidentally, each will influence what men expect and think of you.

You are free to pretend men don’t superficially judge women and women don’t superficially judge men and neither actions really matters in your life, but you would be in denial. This may be unfair but life itself isn’t fair.
My fellow ladies, please strive more to be a a beautiful woman and not just a sexy woman. If you are just sexy, you will lead more men into damnation. But if you are beautiful, men are going to know the truth of life and God through you.



Written by Amara Blessing